Let Your Guard Down


Why do you always have your guard up?
It’s like you built a wall and you won’t let anyone in!
Why can’t you be normal?

How many times have you heard those words before? How many times have others made you feel inadequate because you were afraid to reveal your true feelings about a certain topic? It’s crazy because I’m pretty sure we have all heard this before. We may here it once a month or even twice a day, but we hear it. So why do you have your guard up? Is it because you are use to getting hurt and you want to shield your heart from all of the pain and heartache? Is it because you know that disappointments can be unbearable at times so you try to protect yourself? Or is it because you are selfish and you feel like no one deserves to get in?

Many times when we behave in such a manner, we are trying to protect ourselves. We are trying to protect our feelings… Protect our heart…but in the end we end up hurting ourselves because we end of being deprived of some of the basic emotions which make us happy….like the emotions we feel when we get close to someone…It’s like everyone was write…. It’s like you built a wall and you won’t let anyone in. People show you love and you can’t respond. Hate is shown to you and yet you are not affected… It’s like you are numb to all that is around you. But you are okay… and that’s what matters, right?

You lose so much whenever you have your guard up, and it is up to you to determine if it is worth it. Will you always be so afraid of getting hurt that you protect your heart as if it was the King’s castle but lose every possible ounce of happiness that someone else could introduce? Or do you let your guard down….take down that wall piece by piece…. and hand someone a few bricks which they can decide to throw at you or help build a path for the two of you to walk on…

People build walls because at the end of the day, they know that although there is good in the world, evil still does exist. They also know that if you give up your protection, you are giving another person the opportunity to be the new protector or the one who breaks you apart. As I said before, when you take down your wall, you hand another person the bricks and they decide what they will do with them. They could decide to build a path with those bricks… a path that can open both of your paths in life… Or they can take those bricks… grasp them tightly in the palms of their hands and throw with all of their might until you are finally to the ground…. That reality scares many… that’s what makes that wall stay intact for years upon years…. that’s what makes someone believe that protecting themselves is more important than “true happiness”….because although true happiness has the greatest feeling in the world, nothing can compare to complete and total despair caused by heartache.

So the next time you run into someone, just give it some thought before you ask those few questions.
Why do you always have your guard up?
It’s like you built a wall and you won’t let anyone in!
Why can’t you be normal?

Maybe there guard is up because so  many have let them down.
Maybe they built a wall so they could no longer be hurt from the pains of everyday life..
Maybe this is their normal………
You never really know….

Guards do come down with time. But if you don’t want to wait, then most likely you weren’t worth the destruction of the other persons wall.